Could Your Guy Turn Violent?

first glance, Chris Brown seemed like the last celeb capable of the charges brought against him recently. The rising young star's nice-guy image and affectionate exchanges with Rihanna are part of what makes this incident so shocking — and out of character. But according to Debbie Magids, PhD, "There are some major red flags that could foreshadow this kind of behavior." Below, the signs that a guy could become violent.

He's "too" nice
It's not human to be happy all the time. It's normal to feel — and to show — a gamut of emotions. The guy who puts on a facade of perfection is especially alarming because he can do an emotional 180 in a matter of seconds, and it can catch you off guard. Be wary if he appears unnaturally calm and in control of his emotions.

He doesn't take disappointment well
If your guy throws a tantrum every time things don't go his way, it could mean he never learned how to handle setbacks as a child. Does he punch walls, break things, or erupt in a fit of rage when he's met with a letdown? If so, it's not beyond the realm of possibility that he could turn those aggressions on you one day.

There's violence in his family
If your guy's past includes emotional or physical abuse, there is a very high chance he's hardwired to repeat those actions. While we don't want to unfairly brand every guy raised in an unstable home, it is cause for concern, especially if he exhibits any of these other behaviors.

There's violence in your family
People wind up together because they "fit" in some way. If you were abused once before, it isn't outside your reality to return to familiar territory, even if you know it isn't right. Take an honest look at your own past; If there wasn't physical abuse, maybe you dealt with emotional or verbal punches. Knowing that you may have a predisposition for violent guys could ensure that you don't end up with one.